How much time do you spend on offline and online socialisation every week? For quick classification, I refer to offline socialising as hanging out with friends and online, social media.
According to a study by the Common Sense Census, teens (13-18) spend 9 hours on entertainment media while tweens (8-12) spend 6 hours, with 38% of tweens and 57% of teens spending at least 4 hours on said media daily. Furthermore, the top 3 most time intensive categories for both teens and tweens were tv/videos, video games, and social media.
Can you imagine how much you could achieve if you just converted a fraction of that time to productive work? Maybe, you’d get better grades. Develop a new skill or hobby perhaps? You might even begin to monetise from them before you leave school.
In this video, I am going to share why non-purposeful and over-socialising is detrimental to your personal growth, or worse, achieving your life goals.
The first reason is because I can have more free time. From what I observed, a lot of my extroverted classmates back then would spend lots of time hanging out. For me, spending less time socialising gave me more time to do what I set out to do. Be it personal growth, or spending time reflecting and journaling.
Now, I’m not saying that having a lot of friends is a bad thing, I’m just saying time spent developing deeper and meaningful relationships is what I prefer. And I could focus more on what I wanted to do and not get ‘bogged down’ with over-socialising that is shallow that does not bring benefits in support of my life goals.
The second reason why I don’t socialise much is that over-socialising can put you in a situation where you will unwittingly share some private matters that can become a problem by putting yourself in a compromising position in unforeseeable circumstances later on in life.
The third reason is I can train myself to be as self-reliant as possible. I feel that the world we are living in is changing rapidly and the general human relationship is often weak and temporary. I feel the need to manage as independently as possible. This gives me a sense of empowerment, knowing that I can take care of myself and my family. My family situation taught me to be independent at a young age. I am glad my mum turned this into a character strength for me.
There will undoubtedly be a situation where you will be on your own. With no dependence on friends in the first place, you are already more used to doing things without needing help and the whole “friends can’t help me” conundrum won't affect you as much, if at all.
While it's important to have deep friendships, there is value in mutually beneficial friendships basing on knowledge, interests, or life goals.
For those who have stayed until now, you might have noticed a certain hidden benefit throughout the video. And it's that you can stay focused on what you need or want to do. But the problem is, most people need plenty of social interaction. It’s part of having a well rounded life after all. However, according to Angela Ducksworth, successful people spend 70% of their time alone perfecting their craft or working on their business or just about whatever area they’re in.
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